1 post tagged “crises”

Ok, I know it's not some huge revelation that no friendship is easy, but the same can be said about water being wet.  You don't really realize just how wet water is until someone pours it on your crotch.  Trust me.  The same realization holds true for friendships.  Most of us don't realize how fragile our friendships are until the very foundation of those relationships are disturbed.  And like all crises in life--major or minor--the manner in which we handle these disturbances dictates the future of that relationship.  From what I've found, if you look at these situations as opportunities for growth and maturation, both sides have a better chance of coming out of the altercation more content with the outcome.

If you're willing to put in the necessary effort to maintain the friendship (there are always different things that dictate how much effort is necessary) these things are also easier to handle and process.  But by far, the most effective thing someone can do to maintain a healthy friendship is also the easiest: Honesty.  And this is actually true for pretty much every relationship we encounter.  If you're honest with the other part of the relationship, you really have nothing to hide, and therefore, have nothing... to... hide... Secrets undermine any good thing.  Anyone who's been burned by a lie, rumor, or other malicious secret can attest to this. 

But I think the most important thing to remember in a friendship is that it's never too late to be honest.  In an intimate relationship, admitting that you lied to your significant other can dig up a lot of unresolved issues and will be the proverbial can of worms.  The dynamics of a friendship are different, however, since there isn't as much of an emotional investment, allowing cooler heads to prevail.  As a result, it's easier for both people to talk through it rationally... usually.